On this week’s show we discuss whether, wanting something is the main contributing factor to not appreciating it?

 

You can listen to this week’s Happy Hour, on the player below or in iTunes

 

What odd food combinations make you happy?

You can listen to this week’s Happy Hour, on the player below or in iTunes

 

 

We ask the question: What odd food combinations make you happy?

The results of our survey are unusual to say the least.

It would make us very happy if you could take a minute to fill out our question of the week, for next week’s show, which is:

 

 

Is social media making us less happy?

You can listen to this week’s Happy Hour, on the player below or in iTunes

 

 

We ask the question: Is social media making us less happy?

The results of our survey are quite surprising.

It would make us very happy if you could take a minute to fill out our question of the week, for next week’s show, which is:

 

 

 

 

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If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

 

Can money buy happiness?

You can listen to this week’s Happy Hour, on the player below or in iTunes

 

 

It would make us very happy if you could take a minute to fill out our question of the week, for next week’s show, which is:

 

IS SOCIAL MEDIA MAKING US LESS HAPPY?

(please click here to fill out the quick survey)

 

Notes from this week’s show.

On this week’s podcast we talk about what made us happy and ask the question, can money buy happiness? It’s also someone’s birthday!

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Loves, likes and laughs from the web…

 

Keion loved…

 

 

Helen liked….

 

 

Angharad laughed at…

 

 

Quote of the week was from Pete and it’s:

 

Thomas Edison
 

What made you happy today?

 

 

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

 

 

 

If you want to be happier get off Facebook

Log off Facebook
 

I recently spent a bank holiday weekend on my own. Meagan was working in London and the kids were at her mothers.

This was my Saturday:

Wake up and wonder why I can’t hear Monty crying or Fred shouting, then I realise I’m in the house on my own.

I grab my phone, check my email then look at Facebook, Twitter, HappyMap and LinkedIn.

 

Bleep Test
 

Get into my kit and do the bleep test in the cul-de-sac, where I live. I sense neighbours secretly looking at me, wondering if I’m sane.

Sweating, I go back indoors and put some coloured washing on.

I eat some cereal watching BBC breakfast. Have toasted banana and honey sandwich washed down with a coffee. Undoubtedly one of my favourites.

I check my email, Facebook, Twitter, HappyMap and LinkedIn.

 

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I go up stairs, shave my head and face.

Have a long shower. As a treat, I decide to use both soap and shower gel.

Get out of shower, pick up my iphone check my email, Facebook, Twitter, HappyMap and LinkedIn.

Go downstairs, edit a video and start to write a blog.

Check my email then look at Facebook, Twitter, HappyMap, Instagram and LinkedIn.

Go to Asda.

Someone vacates the best car parking space right outside the shop doors just as I approach – I smile to myself, thinking, “Yes!”

Spend far too long looking at the ingredients on various packs of ham.

Get back home put the food away and hang the coloured washing out.

 

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Go on a bike ride to Winchester, where I discover a bike route that takes me past some very picturesque scenery.

Get back and tidy away all the kids toys in the garden.

Notice cats poo in two different areas. That’s the neighbours cat. I assume its their cat, although he’s a bit odd.

Check my email then look at Facebook, Twitter, HappyMap and LinkedIn.

Put some more washing on.

 

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Order a chicken korma, pilau rice and peshwari naan from the local curry house.

As I go to pick it up Liza Tarbuck makes me laugh on BBC Radio 2.

She gets a text, “Liza I had an ex-boyfriend who used to de-eye potatoes for a crisp maker. He gave that up to be a muesli mixer. He reckons it was more interesting”.

Eat the curry whilst watching, Grand Designs. Against all odds (again) the couple featured just manage to secure some extra financing, to finish their project.

Watch Britain’s Got Talent.

Switch everything off and go to bed.

In bed, I check my email then look at Facebook, Twitter, HappyMap, Instagram and LinkedIn.

Try meditating for 5 minutes.

Go to sleep.

BORING WASN’T IT????!!!!!

Well most of it was but there were bits I really enjoyed, like the cycling, the banana and honey sandwich and the blog writing.

There was also little pleasures like getting a good car parking space or laughing out loud to myself in the car but that’s life. Most of it isn’t mind blowingly amazing.

Happiness arrives in short little bursts. It’s not a 24 hour party.

There’s one thing I discovered from my day on my own. Facebook, more than any other social network, made me feel depressed.

 

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I felt like I was missing out on a lot of stuff. My life felt dull, ordinary and boring compared to what others were doing.

Then I realised that most of the stuff my “friends” post on Facebook (or Instagram) isn’t an accurate reflection of their lives.

It’s their highlights. It’s their best bits. It’s the bits they want me to believe IS their actual life but isn’t. It’s their attempt to show everyone they don’t lead dull, ordinary, boring lives.

It isn’t reality, it’s them boasting about anything they’ve done that is out of the ordinary.

So I started typing, into Google, “Is Facebook d” but it auto filled the rest for me…

 

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The results are conclusive.

A study from the University of Michigan psychologist Ethan Kross found that the more people used Facebook the less happy they felt.

The data, he argues, shows that Facebook was making them unhappy.

This is why more people than ever are closing their Facebook accounts down.

You will never look back over you life and say to yourself, “I wish I’d spent more time on Facebook”

These days, we are so addicted to Facebook (and Twitter & Instagram) sometimes the only point in taking pictures is to boast them… sorry post them on Facebook. This is not a good reason to take a picture in the first place.

Taking a picture just to post it onto a social network dilutes the worth of that experience alone.

First and foremost an enjoyable event should be experienced and enjoyed in the moment not held up to prove to other people we have an interesting life.

If we have to do this, we have no interest in our actual life all we’re doing is comparing our experiences with others and comparison is the thief of joy and security.

 

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If it’s “likes” we’re after, our enjoyment resides solely in the hands of our, “friends” on Facebook.

You’re probably thinking, “Hang on happymap.com is a social network similar to Facebook.

Yes, you’re right but here’s 3 big differences.

1. We only encourage people to spend an average of 1 minute per day to answer the question, “What made you happy today?”

The rest of the day is for living.

2. HappyMap is also about being grateful not showing off. There’s a massive difference..

3. HappyMap makes people happier.

So if you feel depressed after looking at Facebook, you are not alone, close it down and do something!

Does HappyMap make you feel happier?

According to our data we’ve collected yes – but don’t take our word for it read these testimonials from people who have completed our 21-day happiness challenge.

 

 

 

On the player below that you can listen to this weeks podcast (show 9):
Happy Hour Show 9 from happymap.com

 

I apologise but this week’s show breaks down into a shambles at around minute 13 but it’s amusing none the less.

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Here are the show notes…

Stuff That Makes Life Easier (resources).

 

WEQ4Y
 

Justin went with:

WeQ4U

WeQ4U is a FREE Android/iPhone App and Service that puts you through to UK 08 numbers for FREE, without queueing.

Mobile users save approx. 30p per minute on their 0800, 0845, 0844, 0843, 0870, 0871 and 0872 calls with WeQ4U, whether they encounter a queue or not, so it saves you money and time.

 

Loves, likes and laughs…

 

Justin loved…

 

 

Keion liked….

 

Angharad laughed at…

 

 

 

Quote of the week was from Angharad and it’s:

 

Cannot change the wind
 

What made you happy today?

 

 

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

 

 

 

 

I need your help please.

Thank you for taking time out to read this, it really means a lot to me.

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As our 21-day happiness challenge has been running for a few months, we have some good news and some bad news.

The good (or excellent) news is this:

EVERYONE, who has completed the challenge has expressed that it’s made them feel more positive or happier!!!

 

Yes survey monkey
 

Apart from the data we’ve also had some lovely testimonials including this one from Sue.

The bad news is this:

As it’s a challenge, on average, only 1 in 4 people manage to complete it.

 

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Whilst we know this is not a bad thing, in itself, we would like more people to attempt it, which would mean more people complete it.

This equals more data, which means it becomes more accurate and more reliable.

If you’d like to know why answering the question, “What made you happy today?” is so important to your well-being click here to read the science behind it.

We’re excited about the data we have so far, we really think we’re onto something special and that’s why we want to scale it up BIG TIME!

Here’s how you can help.

You’d be an absolute star if you could do one or all of the following:

1. Take our 21-happiness day challenge.

2. Tell a friend about our 21-day happiness challenge.

In fact you could click here to tweet about it

3. Do both of the above.

 

 

Ps – if you want another reason why our 21-day happiness challenge would benefit you please read this post, “The Secret of Success

 

 

Happy Hour from happymap.com – Show 8

 

 

Keion never fails to surprise and this week was no different as he revealed another little secret about himself. Scroll into the 2 minute mark to find out!

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Here are the show notes…

Happiness is Not The Answer

 

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This week’s article featured in our quiz, “happiness is not the answer” was:

5 Scientific Ways to Instantly Brighten Your Day by Charlie Houpert via Huffington Post

 

Stuff That Makes Life Easier (resources).

MailChimp
 

Helen went with:

 

MailChimp

 

“Online email marketing solution to manage contacts, send emails and track results. Offers plug-ins for other programs.Likes, loves and laughs (videos, websites, articles, photo’s)”

 

Loves, likes and laughs…

Chris liked…

 

 

Pete liked….

 

 

Angharad loved…

 

 

And Justin laughed at…

 

 

Quote of the week was from Keion and it’s:

 

we become what we think about
 

What made you happy today?

 

 

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

Here is the unedited show in video:

 

 

 

 

What made you happy today?

Please think for a few seconds to find an answer to this question.

It’s not easy to think of something straight off is it?

This is because our brains have become unconditioned to looking for and highlighting the positive.

Here’s the good news: it’s quite easy to re-wire our brains (neuroplasticity) to automatically focus on the positive AND this will benefit us in all areas of our lives.

Here are just two, of the many documented, benefits of what a positive disposition can achieve*:

 

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1. 180 Catholic nuns, all born before 1917, from The School, Sister of Notre Dame were asked to write down their daily thoughts in an autobiographical diary.

More than 5 decades later, at the age of 85 their entries were analysed for positive sentiment.

The nuns who journal entries contained more overtly joyful sentiment lived nearly ten years longer than the nuns who entries were neutral or negative.

By age 85, 90% of the happiest quartile of nuns were still alive compared to only 34% of the least happiest quartile.

 

Anne
 

2. “My twin sister was a terrible pessimist, she died when she was not yet 70 because she never laughed, never. Laughing is beautiful though,” says 108-year-old Alice Herz-Sommer. 

“I’m an optimist, for me it’s only the good things, never a bad thought,” she says.

Born in 1903, Mrs Herz-Sommer has managed to retain a positive outlook despite a horrific start to life. The oldest living survivor of the Holocaust, she was imprisoned in Terezin (also known as Theresienstadt) concentration camp, near Prague, with her young son Raphael.

She survived the war by playing the piano in concerts within the camp. Her husband died in Germany at Belsen concentration camp.”

It turns out our brains are not only hard-wired to perform better when happy but can adapt and improve faster under positive conditions.

Studies have shown our baseline happiness can be adjusted. In short, it’s possible to train our brain to think more positively and this is the key to become happier.

Before you bought the car you now drive did you notice how many of them were on the road?

 

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Then right after you bought it, you suddenly noticed all the other cars on the road that happen to be the same, colour, make and or model.

Of course, these cars were always there, it’s just your brain is now more in tune with cars that are the same as yours.

Your brain can be trained to look for anything it wants to.

Try this: shut your eyes for ten seconds and whilst they are shut think of the colour red.

Then open your eyes.

 

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Does the colour red stand out more than any other colour.

Now try to think again, what made you happy today?

When you ask yourself this question, your brain scans its memory for anything positive in your day.

When you do this on a regular basis your brain gets better at looking for the positive. In technical terms it strengthens it’s synaptic pathways.

This video explains it better.

 

 

This is why I set up happymap, to learn and consciously practice positive thought.

HappyMap encourages us to post something that made us happy everyday and by doing this your are training your brain to look for the positives.

Does it work?

Yes, we have data and testimonials stating it’s helped people do the following:

– Think more positively

– Worry less

– Feel better about themselves

 

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Why not give our 21-day happiness challenge a try (by clicking here)?

Can you complete it? Yes of course you can…. think positively 🙂

 

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There’s also another, amazing, benefit to becoming more positive – to read about it click here.

* Source: The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor and the BBC – How to live beyond 100 – by Lucy Wallis

 

 

 

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