Does Positive Thinking work?
If you think it does, then it will, if you don’t, then it won’t.
That’s a good example of positive thinking.
You have to have a dream to accomplish it.
This is not an over blown, hyped up, substance free quote.
There is nothing more powerful than the mind. It controls everything you do.
You are what you think.
The very device you are reading this blog on right now, at one time only existed in someone’s mind as a thought or a dream.
Now it is real.
How did this happen?
It wasn’t by someone thinking it can’t be done.
I’m not just talking about the iPhone here.
Think of any amazing construction, invention, creation or achievement and ask yourself, would this have happened if the architect of this feat had said, ‘It can’t be done”.
Think of any successful person in history and do you think they ever uttered the phrase, “I can’t do that”, before achieving their life’s great ambition?
Thomas Edison invented the phonograph, the motion picture camera and the lightbulb.
Apparently he failed to make the lightbulb work over 10,000 times before he succeeded.
Let me re-phrase that into his mindset.
He learned over 10,000 lessons in how not to invent the lightbulb.
Sooner or later he was going to succeed, he had complete faith.
How could he not? He’d tried every other way that existed.
In fact, what is an expert if it isn’t somebody who has failed more times and therefore learned more lessons in a particular field than anybody else?
Do you think Thomas Edison felt a little disappointed, despondent and depressed every time his experiment didn’t work?
Of course he did because he wanted it to work. He wanted it to work so much he tried 10,000 times! BUT he looked on the positive side and said, that’s one less option.
Regardless of how we perceive a situation, there is a positive to every negative, that’s a fact, its physics, it’s science.
And even if you think there isn’t, what is the point in not looking for the positive?
A negative outlook produces nothing but negative thoughts, feelings and actions. Nothing good comes out of that. That’s why its always better to search for the positive, whatever the cost.
Affirm the positive, visualize the positive and expect the positive, and your life will change accordingly.
As an example of how powerful positive thinking is, I want you to read a previous blog I’ve written about a girl named Claire Lomas.
To summarise, Claire was a promising horse rider who was left paralysed from the chest down following a horse-riding accident in 2007.
What positives could possibly be squeezed out of this dreadful experience?
Read the blog and find out.
I was a bit of a negative thinker.
I often said, “What’s the point?” or “It won’t work” or “I can’t be bothered” but realised nothing gets done, achieved or accomplished thinking like this.
Nothing… and life isn’t about doing nothing but if becomes about that then it’s a pointless existence.
Life is about enjoying, about doing, about creating and this only comes about from being positive and getting involved.
Negative thinking is pointless. It’s a complete waste of energy and it uses heaps of energy.
If you can change something you don’t like, change it.
If you can’t change something you don’t like, it’s pointless whinging about it. It won’t alter the situation it and won’t make you feel better about it. In fact it will make you feel worse.
We can all find an excuse for not doing something or something going wrong but it doesn’t help us achieve what we want to achieve.
The truth is it prevents us from achieving that goal.
For example, say you want to get fit and you’re supposed to go for a run but you make an excuse by saying, “I’m too tired to go for a run today”.
Are you really too tired? Or is it just the easy way out?
Thinking like this won’t get you fit. Anything worth achieving never comes easy, that’s why its worth fighting for.
How about thinking, “I’m tired but if I can complete my run today other days will be easy by comparison”.
If you’re thinking, “You can’t always be positive”.
Yes you can, it’s a choice.
It’s all in our heads. As I’ve pointed out above, there is nothing more powerful than the mind. We can think what we want to think.
Everyday when we wake up we have a choice.
We can choose to be happy or miserable and being miserable is hard work not only for us but for people around us.
The day is a lot more enjoyable if we look on the bright side. We smile and others will smile with us.
Who wants to bother with somebody who is miserable all the time?
Think of the worst case scenario that could happen to you in your life. The very worst. Who do you think would recover faster from this type of situation, a positive thinker or a negative thinker?
I recently heard a truly inspiration story in the audiobook, “Chicken Soup for the Soup: Think Positive – 101 stories”.
The title of this particular story is, “The Gift of Brain Cancer”.
You’re probably thinking, as I did when I heard it, “How on earth can brain cancer be a gift?”
It’s the story of a man who had been given 4 – 6 months to live due to brain cancer.
When diagnosed, he reasoned that nothing was going to change the situation he was in but he could change the way he reacted to it.
He realised there was only two possible ways he could react to it.
He could spend the last few months of his life being miserable, feeling sorry for himself waiting for the end to come, whilst simultaneously being a burden to his nearest and dearest.
He could choose to be positive, try his best to enjoy the last few months of his life, whilst simultaneously be seen as a brave, honourable person, cherished by his loved ones.
Plus, he reasoned, if he was ever going to beat his battle with cancer, which frame of mind was more likely to be help?
In the end he made up his mind to stop dying and start living.
He insists that brain cancer was the best thing that ever happened to him.
Do you want to be remembered as that miserable person or that person who always seemed happy and made others happy?
So many more opportunities open up when we’re positive.
If you were a boss and had the choice to employ one of two people both of whom had roughly the same qualifications but one was a cheerful optimist whilst the other was miserable pessimist, which one would you take on?
In fact, if I were that boss, even if the misery was better qualified, I’d still not want to work with him.
Positive and negative are directions. Which direction do you choose?
In 50 Things Successful People Have In Common by Craig Harper, a few of the points that relate to positive thinking are:
They find a lesson while others only see a problem.
They rarely complain (waste of energy). All complaining does is put the complainer in a negative and unproductive state.
They don’t blame (what’s the point?). They take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes (or lack thereof).
They are glass half full people – while still being practical and down-to-earth.
They have an ability to find the good.
They don’t hang out with toxic people.
And if you look on the bright side and start enjoying life you will not only feel better but you’ll live longer to enjoy it too.
Read this if you need proof.
So if you are feeling down and full of negative thoughts, think to yourself, “I’m not going to be solve anything with this mindset but I will if I change it and its up to me to change it, as its my mind”.
Set a goal. Not only to be happy but to change something in your life you’re not happy about as it’s pointless just sitting there and doing nothing about it.
Don’t worry about not achieving it but work to achieve it because even if you don’t reach your intended goal, setting out to do something is better than not doing anything at all.
The journey and experiences along the way is often better than the destination but you have to move forward to start that journey.
You can change your life by positive thinking.
The difference between can and cannot are only three letters. Three letters that determine your life’s direction.
Which direction do you want to head in?
Learning to appreciate what you have is the key to happiness.
This is why I set up my website, www.HappyMap.com