This is the secret to success

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If you’re anything like me at least one time in your life you’ve said to yourself, “If I win the lottery then I could stop worrying and be happy”.

Or we think we will finally be happy when we get one (or all) of the following:

A promotion at work

More money

A bigger house

More holidays

Weight loss

A meaningful relationship

 

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In his book, The Happiness Advantage Shawn Anchor reveals new research in psychology and neuroscience has revealed this type of thinking is not only backward but serves as a severe disadvantage to you achieving any real success.

You are much more likely to achieve success, in any area of your life, from relationships to work, if you are happy or of a positive disposition.

The PROVEN benefits of a positive outlook include:

– 3 times more creativity

– 31% higher productivity

– 23% fewer fatigue symptoms

– 37% greater sales

– 40% more likely to get a promotion

– 10 times more engaged

– A healthier longer life

It turns out our brains are not only hardwired to perform better when happy but can adapt and improve faster under positive conditions.

 

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Have you ever wondered why companies like Google, Yahoo!, and Virgin cultivate work environments that help their employees experience positive emotions on a regular basis?

As Richard Branson said, “More than any other element, fun is the secret of Virgin’s success.”

Fun isn’t just… fun, it also leads to serious bottom-line results.

So being happy or having fun should never be postponed until after you’ve accomplished your goals it should be used as serious fuel for you to achieving these goals.

Why seriously fail when you can be a happy high achiever?

So the secret to success is happiness BUT how do you achieve happiness?

Studies have shown our baseline happiness can be adjusted. In short it’s possible to train our brain to think more positively and this is the key to become happier.

This is why I set up happymap, to consciously practice positive thought.

HappyMap encourages us to post something that made us happy everyday by answering this question:

What made you happy today?

 

 

In trying to answer this question, your brain scans your memory for the positive experiences you encountered during the day.

Does it work?

Yes, we have data and testimonials stating it’s helped people do the following:

– Think more positively

– Worry less

– Feel better about themselves

 

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Why not give our 21-day happiness challenge a try (by clicking here)?

Can you complete it? Yes of course you can…. think positively 🙂

 

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Are you the star of the week? Scroll into the 12 minute mark to find out!

YOU CAN ALSO LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST BY CLICKING HERE FOR ITUNES

Here are the show notes…

 

Happiness is Not The Answer

 

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This week’s article featured in our quiz, “happiness is not the answer” was:

5 Habits You Must Quit to Be Happy from Marc and Angel.

 

Stuff That Makes Life Easier (resources).

 

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Keion went with:

Buffer

“Buffer helps you manage multiple social media accounts at once. Quickly schedule content from anywhere on the web, collaborate with team members, and analyze rich statistics on how your posts perform.”

 

Likes, loves and laughs (videos, websites, articles, photo’s)

 

James liked…

 

 

Pete liked….

 

 

Justin loved…

 

 

And Keion laughed at…

 

 

Quote of the week was from Pete and it’s:

 

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What makes you happy?

 

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

For the unedited show, which just means it’s a bit longer and more boring you can see it here:

 

 

How to stop worrying, think positively and be happier
How to stop worrying, think positively and be happier

According to research most of the things we worry about are based in the future. This is because we fear the unknown.

As humans we don’t like the unknown, we prefer certainty, stability and security.

There’s only one thing, for certain, we know about the future and thats the fact that it ends in death.

Knowing this fact, does nothing for our stability or security.

 

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Death is the ultimate loss and fear is all about loss.

So because we know we will lose our life this fear seeps into every other aspect of our lives. We fear losing our job, our money, our house, our health and the ability to look after ourselves and loved ones.

These fears are all in the future.

BUT what if we could visit the future.

OK we can’t visit our future but we can listen to people who have most of their lives behind them, the elderly.

For his Legacy Project, Professor Karl A. Pillemer asked 1,200 elderly people this question:

“What do you regret when you look back over your life?”

The most popular answer, by far, was:

“I wish I hadn’t spent so much of my life worrying.”

John Alonzo, 83, is a man of few words, but I quickly learned that what he had to say went straight to the point. A construction worker, he had battled a lifetime of financial insecurity. But he didn’t think twice in giving this advice:

Don’t believe that worrying will solve or help anything. It won’t. So stop it.

James Huang, 87, put it this way:

Why? I ask myself.

What possible difference did it make that I kept my mind on every little thing that might go wrong?

When I realized that it made no difference at all, I experienced a freedom that’s hard to describe.

My life lesson is this: Turn yourself from frittering away the day worrying about what comes next and let everything else that you love and enjoy move in.

 

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So what can we learn from this?

Three things:

1. Accept the facts, forget the fiction.

We will die, that’s a fact but we don’t know if we’ll lose our jobs, money or houses so there’s no point worrying about things that might or might not happen.

We can only live our lives in two ways: needlessly worrying or trying to enjoy it.

 

2. Worrying makes things worse.

Happy people are more successful in all areas of their lives.

Worrying impacts happiness.

Being unhappy for long periods of time affects both your mental and physical health. You are more likely to lose what you hold dear, to yourself, if you’ve lost control of these faculties.

Likewise if you’re happy you’re more likely to be healthier and therefore both mentally and physically stronger.  You’ll be more successful in retaining what you value in this state of being.

 

3. Learn to enjoy the positives in your life right now.

Your past and your future is only made up of what’s happening right now. If you are positive in the present then your past and your future will also be happy.

One of the most important words in the above sentence is, “learn”.

Our minds are predisposed to creating a certain amount of worry. This is healthy. A little amount of worry is a good motivator, it helps us improve, to flee from danger or prepare for it.

The problem comes when we worry too much.

Think about the old analogy: the glass half full or empty and how you perceive it.

 

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Is it half full or half empty?

Now imagine the water is your life. You have to drink it to survive but when it’s all gone you will have nothing else to drink and therefore no more life.

So what do you do?

Enjoy drinking the water while you still have it or not drink it, worry about it evaporating and die of dehydration.

We’ve got to learn to see the glass half full.

We’ve got to learn to enjoy it now while we still can or we will look back on our lives and wish we hadn’t worried so much.

The more we practice anything the better we get at it.

Think of something you’ve started doing something that required some mental attention like, Sudoku, Crosswords or a game on your mobile. You need to do them repeatedly to improve.

This is the same with positive thinking. You have to regularly practice thinking positively before it becomes more natural to you.

 

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This is why I set up happymap, to consciously practice positive thought.

happymap encourages us to post something that made us happy everyday. Then when we look back at our past posts we can see that not only did everything turned out OK but it was a pretty pleasant experience.

Does it work?

Yes, we have data and testimonials stating it’s helped people do the following:

– Think more positively

– Worry less

– Feel better about themselves

Why not give our 21-day happiness challenge a try (by clicking here)?

Can you complete it? Yes of course you can…. think positively 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

Are you the star of the week? Scroll into the 16 minute mark to find out!

YOU CAN ALSO LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST BY CLICKING HERE FOR ITUNES

Here are the show notes…

Appy Talk Every week we review an app that apparently improves well-being in some way or other and give it marks out of ten.

Last week we been tried out…

Happify.com you can download the app on iphone or just visit the website if you’re on Android.

 

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Happify builds skills for lasting happiness: it turns the latest innovations in the science of happiness into activities and games that help you lead a more fulfilling life.

We gave it an average of 6.67 out of 10.

 

Happiness is Not The Answer

This week’s article featured in our quiz, “happiness is not the answer” was: 10 Things to Give Up in Exchange for Happiness by Tamara Star

 

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Stuff that makes life easier – resources

 

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Chris went with Patient.co.uk, “This is the website GP’s use when giving medical advice”.

 

Likes, loves and laughs (videos, websites, articles, photo’s)

 

Chris liked…

 

 

This week Pete liked… “Co-Op’s advert gaffe draws predictable response from Twitter”

 

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Justin loved…

 

 

And Keion laughed at…

 

 

Quote of the week was from Justin and it’s:

 

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What makes you happy?

 

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

For the unedited show, which just means it’s a bit longer and more boring you can see it here:

 

 

Is your attitude as positive as Martin’s?

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I received an email the other day, that really lifted my spirits.

I admit, initially on reading it, my ego got a boost as the sender, Martin, was thanking me for writing such positive thinking, motivational posts.

As I re-read the email it struck me that there’s no better example of positive thinking than Martin’s story.

It’s easy to pretend to be a positive thinker when everything is going well but the true test of anyones strength and resolve is their attitude in the face of real adversity.

Martin has gone through some rough times but I guarantee these times will not only get better but become better than he’s ever experienced.

How do I know?

Because he has the attitude of a winner.

 

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Sometimes, in life, when we come face to face with an unexpected challenge, at the time, it can seem like an insurmountable mountain which will kill us before we conquer it but in hindsight it becomes no more than a speed bump that temporarily damaged our suspension.

Winners, learn from these experiences and are therefore more prepared for future bumps in the road.

Successful people are not successful despite challenges along the way but because of them.

This is Martin’s email:

Hi Justin,

I just wanted to thank you for the posts on your blog.

I’m a 42 year old guy who last year had to sell his house to finance the closure of one of his businesses. I’m now living (with my fiancée & 8 year old son) back at my parents house.

Quite a comedown from our own 5 bedder.

We owned a children’s nursery & not only did we lose the business, my fiancée lost her job as manager. Because I have another business we chose not to go into bankruptcy – but boy, it sometimes would have been much easier. To pay off all the employees, HMRC & all other people, it cost us upwards of 50k (this is after the 200 we sank in over the last 3 years).

The nursery was brilliant, got the highest marks in all inspections – yet the lack of government funding for our pre-school department meant it grew increasingly less viable as a business.

I spent some time feeling very down after we chose to close in October last year, but reading your posts have really helped me in a positive way after reading them via LinkedIn. I’m not usually prone to writing these kind of emails – but I felt urged to let you know that you have have a definite effect on my outlook and approach to the future.

Luckily my other company has been trading for 11 years & is still here after the horrible recession years – even when we suffer knock-backs I tend to look at your latest post & it usually spurs me on again.

I don’t subscribe to usual self-help mumbo jumbo, but your straight talking style is to be applauded & I just wanted you to know that thanks to you I am most definitely more happy than I would have been after the last 12 months!

We’ve got out heads up & hopefully within the next 18 months we will have enough money to get a new house, and we will have come out of the situation wiser, stronger & happier!!

Thanks a million & keep up the good work.

Kind regards,
Martin

 

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Sue, a happymap member, has just completed our 21-Day Happiness Challenge and I asked her to write about her experience.

Testimonials – Sue from Romford.

 

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The last few years have produced a few personal challenges for me.

I kept on keeping on, getting out of bed, putting one foot in front of the other, just about keeping my head above the water until last Autumn I finally crashed and burned.

The tipping point was my eldest child leaving to go to University (albeit only 50 miles away). All of it affected all aspects of my life. Socially, mentally, physically, my work – although I was too proud to tell anyone there or to ask for time off.

Then things changed. I can pinpoint the day – Valentine’s Day this year – I reached a turning point.

Suddenly I could walk down the street with my chin literally up and not looking at the ground.

Now, I’ve been following Justin since his days at Capital FM when he made me laugh aloud in the mornings, then his Blog and now MyHappyMap.com.

This was my chance to be positive, to be the old Susie again.

So here’s the thing. Being positive brings positivity around you and the happymap has helped me focus on that.

I found myself at the end of the day thinking all about the good things that happened, not obsessing about the ONE BAD THING. People see me differently, they think I’ve changed my hair for example (I haven’t).

The lovely people who also post there make me smile and the encouragement and support that they give is invaluable.

Today I am happy because I have been asked to be an Ambassador for happymap and I accept that title with pride.

 

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To read about our 21-Day Happiness Challenge click here.

To read about becoming a happymap ambassador click here.

 

 

 

 

 

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In this weeks show I have a laughing fit (8 & 12 minutes in) when Keion reveals a little more of his curious world to me.

Apart from that face swaps, a polite grizzly bear and educational food art are some of the things that made us happy.

 

YOU CAN LISTEN TO THE PODCAST BY CLICKING HERE

 

Or here…

 

New and Noteworthy

 

We recently made it onto iTunes, “New & Noteworthy” section so we’d love it if you could give us a review.

You can find the show notes below.

 

Appy Talk

Every week we review an app that apparently improves well-being in some way or other and give it marks out of ten.

Last Week

We’ve been trying out Calm.com

 

Calm.com
 

Calm attempts to bring some relaxation into your life with meditation by using relaxing sounds and calming backgrounds.

Our average marks out of ten for this were: 7

(I discounted Keion’s low mark of 2 as he only, “glanced” at it – so this unfairly brought the scores down).

 

This Week

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This week we’re going to try Happify.com you can download the app on iphone or just visit the website if you’re on Android.

Happify builds skills for lasting happiness: it turns the latest innovations in the science of happiness into activities and games that help you lead a more fulfilling life.

 

Happiness is not the Answer

 

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This week’s article featured in our quiz, “happiness is not the answer” was:

This week’s article is: 7 Ways to Have a Great Day–Every Day by Geoffrey James (@SALES_SOURCE) via inc.com

 

Stuff that makes life easier – resources

 

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Angharad went with 99U.com

 

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“I decluttered a lot of my stuff this week and have been able to think a lot clearer and am much more organised without trying”

Thanks to this article, “100 tips to improve your life.

 

Likes, loves and laughs (videos, websites, articles, photo’s)

This week Pete liked…

“Lewis Hamilton wins the Wrong Trousers at last week’s Chinese Grand Prix” on Viz’s Facebook Comic Wall.

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James liked…Lee Samantha

“An online food star who makes whimsical, colorful and imaginative meals she whips up for her 2 young daughters and photographs for her 260,000 plus followers on Instagram”.

 

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Helen loved…

12 Of The Best Faceswaps from The Poke

 

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And Angharad laughed at…

 

 

Quote of the week was from Helen and it’s:

 

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What makes you happy?

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

 

 

How to win from a mistake

 

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The other week I was asked to host a cinema showing, of a the new Muppet’s film, for the radio radio station I work for, JACK fm.

Before the film starts I, basically, stand at the front with a mic, play a few games with the audience and throw out some prizes.

This time we were about to do the same and I was really looking forward to the game we were about to play.

Pete in the office had created an animated little graphic, to go on the big screen. It was a film clapper board that generated a seat number when the clapper shut.

The person sitting in this seat would win a prize.

 

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Sounds good yeah?

There was only one snag, five minutes before we started, the game, my boss said to me, “There’s been a clerical error and only 150 people will be showing up rather than 300”.

I said, “ok” thinking nothing of it then I realised something.

What if the clapper board generated a seat number nobody was sitting in?

This was very likely to happen, as one half of the cinema was empty. So potentially 5 of the 10 prizes, we had to give away, would go to nobody.

We had neither the time nor resources to change the seat numbers on the animated graphic, as the audience started taking their seats.

All of a sudden this excellent little game, we’d come up with, was quickly turning into a damp squib. It would be a bigger flop than… well whatever the biggest film flop you can think of is.

My boss said, “Hmmmm”

So I thought for a while and said, “How about we say, “If the number generated is an empty seat, then the first to sit in that seat, wins the prize”?

“Yeah good idea”

 

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It turns out, seeing children and adults alike frantically scurrying around in a semi lit cinema, desperately trying to find the empty winning seats, was the best part of the game!

You think about it.

If the cinema had been full, all people would’ve had to have done was raise their hand to claim their prize.

With the cinema half empty, most of the audience would have to get up and leg it to the row and seat they thought was the winning one. It provided some excellent comedy value with people falling over each other and jumping rows of seats.

In fact, I liked it so much I’ve suggested that we do the same next time, that is, slightly under book the audience and select winning seats located at the extremes of the cinema.

Thank goodness for the clerical error, if it wasn’t for the empty seats we wouldn’t have had half the fun, or a better plan for next time.

 

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Dogs playing with elephants, kids in vending machines and Magisto are a few things we chat about in this weeks Happy Hour from happymap.com – Show 4

 

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You can watch the video below or LISTEN TO THE PODCAST BY CLICKING HERE

 

New and Noteworthy

 

It would make us very very happy if you could rate and review it iTunes, as we’re already on their, “New & Noteworthy” list in the category, “Health”. Ideally we’d like to get on the overall, “New & Noteworthy” list.

You can find the show notes are below the video.

For me the highlight was the quiz. You can see that by scrolling 12 minutes in.

 

 

 

Appy Talk

Every week we review an app that apparently improves well-being in some way or other and give it marks out of ten.

Last Week

Azumio Sleep Time Alarm
 

We’ve been trying out Sleep Time Alarm Clock By Azumio, the next generation sleep cycle alarm clock, “that will leave you feeling rested after every night’s sleep!”

Our average marks out of ten for this were: 6.6

 

This Week

Calm.com
 

This week we’re going to try Calm.com – you can download the app on iphone or just visit the website if you’re on Android.

Calm is as it sounds, about bringing some relaxation into your life with meditation by using relaxing sounds and calming backgrounds.

 

Happiness is not the Answer

 

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This week’s article featured in our quiz, “happiness is not the answer” was:

17 Things happy people say every day by Bill Murphy (@BILLMURPHYJR) via inc.com

 

Stuff that makes life easier – resources

This is an app I absolutely love!

 

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If you have loads of photo’s or videos just sitting on your phone or computer and don’t know what to do with them let Magisto turn them into an amazing video in 3 easy steps.

Scroll to 15.50 minutes into the video to find out why I love it but here’s a little video that took me less than 10 minutes to make.

 

 

Likes, loves and laughs (videos, websites, articles, photo’s)

This week Pete liked….

 

 

Chris liked…

 

 

Keion loved…

 

 

And I laughed at…

 

 

What makes you happy?

If there’s anything that makes you happy, we’d love to feature it during our Happy Hour.

You can email me at: justin@happymap.com or just post it to happymap.com

 

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