Why it’s bad to let off steam
How many times have you heard the phrase, “It’s good to let off a bit of steam”?
This is often after someone has beaten up a defenseless inanimate object, usually a computer.
It happened to me recently.
I hit my Mac Book Pro and cracked the screen – “that’ll teach it”, I thought.
Did this make me feel better?
No, especially when I got a quote for replacing it, which came in at £350 plus VAT. It’s still has a cracked screen and at that price, will stay that way.
I now see it as a good reminder that getting angry doesn’t pay.
Don’t take my word for it, just ask Dr David Banner. Every time he lost his temper he had to fork out for a new set of clothes and an extra large pack of baby wipes to clean the green make up off himself.
Not only that but for days after I felt really bad about my outburst.
I’ve since discovered that if I’m ever tempted to lose my temper, the best solution is to close my eyes, breathe deeply and count to 10.
It also better for my health.
Imagine a car rev meter.
When you lose your temper that’s like you putting your foot to the floor in first gear. You rev meter needle goes into the red.
This is not good for the car and it doesn’t really get you anywhere fast.
Closing your eyes, taking a deep breathe and counting 10 is like changing up a gear and mentally pulling away from the situation.
What’s the life expectancy of a car engine that is always in the red?
It’s the same with us humans.
If we are always getting stressed and losing our temper then we’re seriously increasing our chances of breaking down from complications as a result these situations.
Research by The Harvard School of Public Health revealed that a hot temper increases your risk of having a heart attack or stroke and the the risk is cumulative, meaning temper-prone individuals will be at higher risk still.
Stress is completely self created. It’s in our heads and so is the solution to beating it.
I don’t want to get all hairy fairy but recently I’ve be trying meditation. I’m a complete beginner but I think it’s starting to help.
If you’ve never tried I’d urge you to try. A good place to start is to try Headspace for an easy guide via an app, it only takes 10 minutes a day.
Not convinced? Then try this.
This is my 30 seconds happy mediation guide to feeling better.
Close your eyes.
In fact don’t do that yet otherwise you won’t be able to read this.
1. Close your eyes
2. Exhale slowly through your mouth.
3. When you can’t exhale any more hold your breathe for 4 seconds.
4. When you start inhaling, through your nose, start forming a smile. Make sure the smile increases in size in direct relation to the inhalation.
Therefore the further you inhale, the bigger your smile.
5. When you can’t inhale any more, hold you breathe and hold the smile for 4 seconds.
6. As you exhale, through your mouth, slowly let the smile go.
7. Go back to step 3 and repeat all the steps again as many times as you want.
Ps – if you know anyone who can fit a 13 inch Mac Book Pro screen for less than £100 please let me know – thanks.